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Here is a unique tip to make other top communicators know you are one of them

This month's tip-
MAKE A GREAT IMPRESSION -- THAT LASTS!

Everyone know the importance of a first impression. But what about your last impression? That sticks with people for a very long time. Why? Because your friendliness when you part subliminally signals how you feel about THEM.

Think about it. IF someone gives you a big hearty "Hello," you feel great. But, later, if they lethargically mumble "good bye," you can't help but subconciously think they like you less now. natural paranoia takes over and we feel we disappointed them in the encounter. Don't do that to people! When introduced to someone, END your conversation even more enthusiastically than you started it. Some suggestions:

At the END of the converstaion, tell a new acquaintance, "I'm so happy to meet you, Miguel!"
At the END of a chance-meeting, tell your colleague, "Good bumping into you, Barry."
At the END of a chat, tell your friend, "I always enjoy our converstations, Chelsea."
At the END of a meeting, "I appreciate the points you made, Peter"
At the END of a phone converstation, "It's so much fun talking to Fiona."
At the END of a date, "It was lovely being with you, Brendon."

A lively farewell -- LETTING THEIR NAME BE THE LAST WORD THEY HEAR -- is like a warm kiss at the end of an evening.
A lackluster, low-energy one sounds like a kiss-off.

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"WHY AM I SHY ONLY AROUND HIM?"

Question: My name is Manjusha and I'm reading your book ( Good-Bye Shy ) and I feel so happy bcuz each sentence talk about me.

However, I'd like to ask you for an advice please, I'm single and so shy-girl , when I like someone I feel like I want to hide but in the same time I want his attention, I'm not good at relationship though I'm trying my best to have someone in my life, I'm 27 years. old , I'm student at University , I study master in food & nutrition in my first year now. I'm ambition and nice with my friends, but when it come to guys I'm bad ..really bad.

I liked someone and tried to be connected with him using facebook and blackberry messenger and he turned me down .. I pushed too much and he replied (plzz don’t try with me) .. I was trying to get his attention but I failed.. I NEED YOUR HELP.. I have hope to get in touch with him one day ;)

Manijusha

Leil's answer: Manjusha, as you know, I know first hand the excruciating pain of shyness. Please believe the studies that have proven that Shys are always putting themselves in a bad light, practically always incorrectly. The more Shys think about a situation, the worse they think they did.